A bridesmaid who won $A10,000 from a scratchie that was gifted to her as a wedding favour has been embroiled in a furious debate after refusing to share her lottery winnings with the bride and groom.
Bridesmaid Sarah* and her groomsman boyfriend Paul* had travelled to Cyprus for a destination wedding.
The pair were among a tight-knit group of 10 friends — all couples — who were all part of the wedding party.
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The group decided to make a big holiday out of the trip, so they rented a villa for 10 days.
As part of the wedding favours, the bride and groom gifted everyone a lottery scratch card.
“We all sat down to eat and while we were waiting, Sarah started jumping up and down shouting she had won $A10,000 on the scratch card,” a second bridesmaid said in a Reddit thread.
“The whole room erupted in applause, and the bride and groom ran over to congratulate them. It was already a very happy occasion but this just made it even better.”
A bridesmaid won $A10,000 from a scratchie that was gifted to her as a wedding favour (stock image). Credit: Bloomberg via Getty Images
The next day, the group of friends sat down to enjoy breakfast at the villa when they all started chatting about Sarah and Paul’s win.
“They were saying what they planned to do with the winnings and everyone was asking questions and I casually asked how much of it they were going to give to the bride and groom,” the bridesmaid said.
“There was no agenda behind my question — I didn’t ask because I was trying to hint that they should do this, it just never occurred to me as a possibility that they wouldn’t give at least a small amount as a belated wedding gift to the couple, given they wouldn’t have had the ticket without them.
Much to her surprise, Sarah and Paul both “went very quiet”.
“Paul said they weren’t going to give them anything,” the bridesmaid said in disbelief.
“We sat in awkward silence for a bit, and Sarah got up and walked out.”
A second bridesmaid drove a wedge between the group after she asked Sarah how much of her winnings was she giving to the bride and groom (stock image). Credit: Getty Images
The bridesmaid later discovered Sarah had been crying over her question.
“Paul said I was the a****** for making them feel awkward and implying they were cheap. I apologise and said that’s not what I meant.
“I just said it because that’s what I would do in their situation, but it is their money and their decision so they should do what they want with the money.
“Paul’s walked off and neither of them spoke to me for the rest of the holiday or since.”
The bridesmaid later asked the rest of the group — including her partner — what they would have done with the lottery winnings if they were in Sarah and Paul’s position.
“They agreed with me, they say (Sarah and Paul) should give something to the bride and groom as a ‘Thank you’.
But the group pointed out while they agreed she never intended to offend Sarah and Paul, her question, however, did make the situation “awkward” after she drove a wedge between the friends.
“So am I the a****** for making my friend feel awkward for not sharing her lottery winnings?” she asked.
As part of the wedding favours, the bride and groom gifted everyone a lottery scratch card (stock image). Credit: Getty Images/Westend61
Interestingly, a majority of people took particular issue with the bridesmaid’s question — as many defended Sarah and Paul’s decision to keep the winning prize for themselves.
“You’re the a******. Everybody got a scratch card, they won. It is NOT your business to inquire how they would spend that money, especially in public, regardless of your intention,” one slammed.
Another suggested: “Yikes. The scratch card was a gift to them. There was a lot of presumption and implied judgement in your question and your subsequent conversation with them — which made you look even worse, whether you meant it or not. Mind your own business in the future.”
One said: “You have no idea what Paul and Sarah might need that money for. The lotto ticket was a gift, so they have no obligation to share the winnings with anyone. But you just had to put them on the spot and implicitly pressure them to do what you think you would have done with the money if you had won instead.”
Another shared: “That remark was in bad taste, and totally put them in an uncomfortable position. You asked them as if giving the bride and groom some of the money was a no brainer, but it’s not. if they keep it all for themselves, it’s their right and no one ought to judge them. The fact is that you totally put your foot in your mouth.”
A fellow Reddit user explained: “$A10,000 is a great win but it’s not so much they can share it without making their windfall pretty meaningless to them in the end and because of the way you phrased the question you stopped them from making a kind gesture themselves.
“You turned it into an obligation where the amount they decided to share would then be an issue for people to question if it was ‘enough’ or not. It’s such a shame you turned something nice for them into something that made them sad.
“The bride and groom did a nice, fun thing. They’ll have had wedding gifts and attention on their special day. Is that not enough?”
*Names have been changed.
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